Join the military, they said. You’ll be swimming in dates, they said. The truth is that maintaining a military career and a love life can be just a tiny bit complicated. And while it’s true that you become insanely attractive to someone who’s into military men or women, you also start to attract people who perhaps only love you for the military benefits.
Here are some genuine warning signs that you should look out for:
1. Getting to know your military benefits before you
The honeymoon stage of any relationship consists of asking a tonne of questions so that you can get to know each other better. But if the questions you’re being asked all keep coming back to the military benefits that you’re bringing to the table, then you should hit the pause button and reevaluate the conversation. Sometimes, what feels like a harmless interest can actually be something else.
2. The commitment question
You just started dating and they are already asking how serious you are? That may be a red flag. It’s normal for some people to fall in love fast, and it’s normal to want to put labels on a relationship. But if the person you are with is pushing for a ring, then hit the brakes. You can be committed to someone in a number of ways without making it paper official. So stop and think about whether it’s about your military benefits or really about the benefits.
3. You were found at a military hangout
We all know those nooks, corners, bars, etc., that military personnel frequent. Places with a reputation for welcoming those who know how to win a fight. If you end up attracting someone like a moth running after a flame, put your ego aside for a second. Look for little signs during the interaction to see whether they are talking to you for you or if it’s the military benefits that are making them come to you. It’s pretty easy to spot military personnel, given that they look a certain way. If someone shows up and immediately starts pursuing you aggressively, don’t just get swept away in the moment.
4. Military benefits guidebook
The best way to spot trouble is someone who can basically read you the list of the military benefits you bring to the table without you even opening your mouth. They know about free accommodation, insurance credits, housing loans, spouse employment, and a whole lot more. You may not even know about all this stuff because, hey, you’re not married. Why would you? If someone walks up to you telling you about the benefits of being a military parent, run in the opposite direction (unless you’re down for it, in which case don’t).
It doesn’t matter what branch of the military you are in; you will struggle to make and maintain relationships with someone you fancy. It comes with the job. So it’s not surprising that some people jump at the chance for a relationship for all the wrong reasons, and ignore red flags that they otherwise wouldn’t.
This dgrace not all ppl civilians’ ike this!…quite offensive actually
Apparently getting married is a cirme lol..who was writing this?….
Criminals, their everywhere shhhh
well FPP is the hunting ground then…hanging up place lol …
Getting married is surely not a crime. But getting married just for the money is surely morally reprehensible. 😉
money and soldiers ..you are joking are you?
As far as I know soldiers earn money for risking their lives every day to help us to live in security and peace. If that’s not enough for you, just earn your own money. That way you don’t make yourself dependent on others as well. 😉
honey….I make my own money…lots of it… I can not understand why you thought I would need poor paid soldier for his money… My ex husband was a soldier and it was me who was providing us with a good level of quality life …not his poor paid salary …, but for some woman …it is all about benefits …bread crumbs for hungry birds I would say… lol
lets begin with the article: 4 ways military girlfriends have it tougher than the wives . They can’t make they minds lol ….
Haha, i met someone like this recently. Long stick required
Don’t give up guys. Still a few good ones out there xx
I want a real man, not his money. I know he might be away on tour, that won’t stop me loving him for him. I’m not interested in marriage, if it happens it happens, let’s see where we go. It would be great to have my very own hero 🤗😘
I am upfront don’t like mind games, say it as it it is. I was a nursing care assistant until my son passed away.
I’m from South Africa and British 52. I have a twisted sense of humour, and hope to find my soul mate.
I’ve supported Ukraine since Russia attacked! I’m persistent in my online activity against them and will continue to support our forces in any way I can! Glory to all our heroes! God save our King!
Sorry but earn my own money, pay for my own place to live, get myself to places not interested in military benefits. Date a person get to know them first as a person. Not interested in rushing into marriage. Rather find love first. X
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I’m new here and I want to thank all the military men and women who’ve kept us safe in past and today. Us civilians are able to sleep and wake safely. So I can’t thank you enough. As for romance, military soldiers deserve respect and a kind loving partner. I’m independent and earn myself and bring up my son by myself. I’m not rushing into anything but I’d like to meet my military man one day, if he still likes me. I’d love him to the moon and back. If he’s away or with me. Love will always find a way. ♥️
I Agree, I’m new here and all I want is to meet someone I don’t need anyone to financially look after me I do that myself. All I want is to meet my person and not have my heart crushed again life is way to short!!
I would like to to meet somebody special. friendship 1st and then let destiny be the decider. I’m not after money at all. The only thing I’d like is to make new friends, and hopefully my soulmate.
I want to be with a stable well asured man who can act professional has respect for themselves and others who is fully independent and fully set financially like me and if we please could be compatible in zodiac signs that be a good start and we have the same interests too like music films and pampered days at spas or holidays which we can enjoy together