Men: Dos and don’ts on your date

Dating can be a complicated affair for many men. However, it doesn't have to be. 

While there are no hard and fast rules about exactly what to do on a date, there are certainly things you can do to make the event go more smoothly.

In our guide below, we list some of the top dating tips for men meeting a woman for the first time.

Etiquette

This may seem like an obvious point, but a little manners and etiquette goes a long, long way. 

There is a lot to be said for opening a door for women, or taking her coat for her. Of course, there are some who claim that such gestures can be interpreted as patronising or even sexist, but the key to it all is to play it by ear and don't go over the top.

Be confident

It is natural for you to feel nervous when meeting the woman of your dreams. However, it is still necessary to retain a calm and confident demeanour.

Even if it means you have to practice in the mirror before the big date, or whatever it takes to calm your nerves, doing the basics, such as looking her in the eye and maintaining composure over your body language, it will go a long way towards creating a better first impression.

When it comes to conversation, stick to the topics you're comfortable with, by coming up with a few subjects beforehand that you can talk about easily without getting out of your element.

There is nothing more unattractive than a man who is constantly denigrating himself, or being awkward on a first date because he is feeling nervous.

Choose someone you have lots in common with

You would be surprised by how many guys fail to do this. But what often happens is some men will go for a woman for her looks, and then realise too late that they have absolutely nothing to talk about.

This can make the whole experience of dating quite awkward and complex.

For example, if you are really into travelling and exploring new things, and your date isn't, then it is likely to be a very short-lived relationship.

Don't over do it

The worst thing you can do on a date is over complicate things. If you are meeting a lady that you don't know very well, then it is best to choose something informal and low-key, such as meeting at the local pub or something.

Rather than trying to do too much too quickly, it is best to take your time and slowly get to know someone, before trying your hand at anything too exotic.
 
Manage your expectations

So many guys do this. They meet the woman who to all intents and purposes, is the woman of their dreams and ticks every box, but they dismiss her instantly, because she has an annoying laugh or wears a funny hat.

No woman is ever going to be perfect and in any case, it is unlikely that she will meet each and every single one of your requirements.

The big things matter the most – for example if she is not being upfront with you or she turns out to be a complete weirdo – everything else you can negotiate on.

Be the best version of yourself

Sure – everyone says 'just be yourself'. However, that advice doesn't really say that much. Rather, you should endeavour to be the best version of yourself. This includes making a real effort to create a great first impression – making sure you smell good, bathe regularly, take an interest in her – and what she says, smile lots and be sure to highlight your strengths and interests.

Be subtle

Nothing is more off-putting to a woman than a man who comes across as being too needy or one who makes his moves too fast.

The key to any relationship is to take time to get to know each other first and determine whether there is actually any chemistry, before jumping straight into the deep end.

Be sincere

For most women, there is nothing worse than a man who says: "I'll call you", and doesn't follow it up.

Firstly, it is pointless, and even if you do intend to see her again, a simple "I enjoyed spending time with you" is more than enough.

It will also set you apart from all the other suitors who say it as a matter of course.