{"id":3212,"date":"2015-09-30T20:15:53","date_gmt":"2015-09-30T20:15:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/forcespenpals.net\/p=?3212"},"modified":"2015-09-30T20:15:53","modified_gmt":"2015-09-30T20:15:53","slug":"what-not-to-do-when-trying-to-get-the-lady-of-your-dreams","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/forcespenpals.net\/gb\/news\/what-not-to-do-when-trying-to-get-the-lady-of-your-dreams\/","title":{"rendered":"What NOT to do when trying to get the lady of your dreams"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most people get nervous when approaching a girl they really like. Striking up a conversation with a lady you do not know in a way that does not seem contrived, arrogant or just plain weird can be a tricky balancing act, particularly if you've got butterflies in your stomach.<\/p>\n

The key is to relax, show her your confident side and let the conversation flow naturally.<\/p>\n

Of course, it also helps if you have common interests or hobbies that unite you and would help bring you closer together.<\/p>\n

So you might be part of a sports club, gym, workshop or association. In fact, if you are already part of a group or organisation in which you can both pursue your interests, you may already be on a good footing.<\/p>\n

Naturally, one of the first things you want to do is ascertain whether she has a partner, or is married before you make a move.<\/p>\n

If there is no way to know that before you go ahead and make your move, then the only thing left is to try and talk to her.<\/p>\n

However, if you want to be in her good books, rather than being added to her 'weirdos, avoid' list or her 'just friends' list, then perhaps avoid doing some of the things below.<\/p>\n

Talk about sex<\/strong><\/p>\n

I mean, why would you? The last thing you want to do in your very first conversation is come across as some kind of weird, perverted creep. So unless the lady in question happens to be a porn star or a prostitute, I'd steer clear of this topic until you know her a little better.<\/p>\n

Now this may seem a little obvious to the more sane of us, but you would be surprised by how many guys move straight in for the kill and are then shocked when the conversation…and golden opportunities with the lady in question subsequently dies.<\/p>\n

Stalk<\/strong><\/p>\n

No-one likes a stalker. If you do manage to get her number and then go on to text her 24\/7, you'll not only annoy her, but you will probably have her concerned for her own safety.<\/p>\n

There's nothing wrong with a few texts here or there or even better a call, but if you constantly pester her, then she'll think you are…a pest.<\/p>\n

Ditch the three day rule<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, you know that unspoken guy rule where you don't call her for three days? Yeah, that doesn't work for girls.<\/p>\n

All you'll really be doing is giving her three days to find a million hot guys and by the time you do actually get around to calling her, she may very well have forgotten you.<\/p>\n

After all, you have to be in it to win it.<\/p>\n

Drunkenness<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you really want to run the risk of vomiting over your shirt, making inappropriate remarks and telling her how high you scored on the psychopath test?<\/p>\n

If the answer is no, I suggest you steer clear of the booze.<\/p>\n

The Ex<\/strong><\/p>\n

To be honest, most girls don't want constant reminders or comparisons to your ex, whether positive or negative.<\/p>\n

If you keep on harping on about old flames, then it will make her wonder if you really have moved on.<\/p>\n

As the old saying goes, out with the old, in with the new!\"ADNFCR-2867-ID-801801987-ADNFCR\"<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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