{"id":2915,"date":"2014-09-29T13:43:17","date_gmt":"2014-09-29T13:43:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/forcespenpals.net\/p=?2915"},"modified":"2014-09-29T13:43:17","modified_gmt":"2014-09-29T13:43:17","slug":"how-to-ask-for-a-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/forcespenpals.net\/gb\/news\/how-to-ask-for-a-date\/","title":{"rendered":"How to ask for a date"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You've been chatting to someone online and you feel like the signs are all pointing towards a real-life date, but how should you go about asking?<\/p>\n<p>Well, the truth is, if you feel comfortable talking to the person in question about all the other things you've been chatting about, getting the subject of a date out there should be almost as simple.<\/p>\n<p>The key is not to be worried about being rejected &ndash; it's possible the person you're talking to might not want to meet, of course, and this could be for a wide range of reasons. But if you think the chat has been going well for a while, chances are they do to, so go for it!<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don't feel the need to be too specific<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You don't need to name a time, place and activity in the first instance, in fact it's probably much better to leave things open and start by simply saying: Do you fancy actually meeting me sometime? You can iron out exactly what you'll do later on. That way, your date has a chance to give their input about what activity they would like to do.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Don't hold back<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It's probably best to do a bit of chatting before you ask someone out &ndash; so that you know you feel comfortable together. 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