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There are many ways to play the online dating scene, but one that is unlikely to reap too many rewards is appearing desperate.<\/p>\n

Being overly keen on someone shortly after you start talking to them could set alarm bells ringing in their head immediately, while pressuring a fellow dater to meet up with you can also be seen as a little unnerving.<\/p>\n

Plenty of your time will be used up by people who decide they do not want to get to know you, so it is easy to go overboard when you find someone who appears to be responding positively to your advances.<\/p>\n

But coming across as desperate is far from attractive and could result in you being binned by potential matches early into your online relationship.<\/p>\n

Tasha Smith has written a piece for the Huffington Post in which she detailed some of the most desperate tactics deployed by people who may be shooting themselves in the foot when it comes to attracting a date.<\/p>\n

She told how she frequently cringes when she reads words such as, "I hate writing these things but here goes". After all, this is effectively the equivalent of walking into a bar with a bag on your head, she explained, as while people will look they will not want to talk.<\/p>\n

Ms Smith explained online daters "can smell desperation a mile away", so it is important to play a shrewder game and to give the impression that you are anything but desperate.<\/p>\n

While some people even think they are being smart, the reality is they are being spotted by other online daters as soon as they start talking and classed as one of those people with a bag on their heads.<\/p>\n

So do everything possible to avoid coming across as desperate, and you might just find you stand a much better chance of leaving people wanting to find out a lot more about you.\"ADNFCR-2867-ID-801698718-ADNFCR\"<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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