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Sending the perfect first message should always be your priority when using online dating sites, as it will give you the best possible chance of success.<\/p>\n

After all, many people will simply not respond if you do not grab their attention with a message that intrigues them, so it is effectively your one shot at striking up conversation with someone you like the look of.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, not everyone always manages to get it right when it comes to the first message, as Shape magazine has documented in a recent piece about the worst lines that have been used.<\/p>\n

For instance, it started by telling how one person opened his correspondence with a prospective date with the words: "Oh my! … What BIG teeth you have!"<\/p>\n

Pointing out abnormalities or features that people might be conscious of is unlikely to ever lead to a meaningful relationship, so steer well clear of such a tactic.<\/p>\n

Another bad idea is to open an exchange with a lustful suggestion, as online daters typically want to be wooed. Getting to know someone is a must, so trying to make a relationship physical too soon – especially with someone you have not met – is reckless.<\/p>\n

One man opened his conversation with a potential date by asking whether she enjoyed foot rubs. While this might simply have been him showing he is willing to please, keeping slightly unusual fetishes a secret is a must.<\/p>\n

Remember not to go over the top too soon, just like one online dater did when he suggested he would be happy to swim the Amazon in order to win a webcam date with one lady.<\/p>\n

Instead, users are perhaps better off focusing on the profile of the person they are sending a message to and working out whether they have mutual interests to discuss or, failing that, simply revealing interesting features of their own lives.\"ADNFCR-2867-ID-801693202-ADNFCR\"<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Getting the first message right can be key, but not everyone manages it.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":4033,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"\nWhat are the worst online dating messages? - Forces Penpals GB<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/forcespenpals.net\/gb\/news\/what-are-the-worst-online-dating-messages\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"What are the worst online dating messages? - Forces Penpals GB\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Getting the first message right can be key, but not everyone 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