Join the military, they said. You’ll be swimming in dates, they said. The truth is that maintaining a military career and a love life can be just a tiny bit complicated. And while it’s true that you become insanely attractive to someone who’s into military men or women, you also start to attract people who perhaps only love you for the military benefits.<\/p>\n
Here are some genuine warning signs that you should look out for:<\/p>\n
The honeymoon stage of any relationship consists of asking a tonne of questions so that you can get to know each other better. But if the questions you’re being asked all keep coming back to the military benefits that you’re bringing to the table, then you should hit the pause button and reevaluate the conversation. Sometimes, what feels like a harmless interest can actually be something else.<\/p>\n
You just started dating and they are already asking how serious you are? That may be a red flag. It’s normal for some people to fall in love fast, and it’s normal to want to put labels on a relationship. But if the person you are with is pushing for a ring, then hit the brakes. You can be committed to someone in a number of ways without making it paper official. So stop and think about whether it’s about your military benefits or really about the benefits.<\/p>\n
We all know those nooks, corners, bars, etc., that military personnel frequent. Places with a reputation for welcoming those who know how to win a fight. If you end up attracting someone like a moth running after a flame, put your ego aside for a second. Look for little signs during the interaction to see whether they are talking to you for you or if it’s the military benefits that are making them come to you. It’s pretty easy to spot military personnel, given that they look a certain way. If someone shows up and immediately starts pursuing you aggressively, don’t just get swept away in the moment.<\/p>\n
The best way to spot trouble is someone who can basically read you the list of the military benefits you bring to the table without you even opening your mouth. They know about free accommodation, insurance credits, housing loans, spouse employment, and a whole lot more. You may not even know about all this stuff because, hey, you’re not married. Why would you? If someone walks up to you telling you about the benefits of being a military parent, run in the opposite direction (unless you’re down for it, in which case don’t).<\/p>\n
It doesn’t matter what branch of the military you are in; you will struggle to make and maintain relationships with someone you fancy. It comes with the job. So it’s not surprising that some people jump at the chance for a relationship for all the wrong reasons, and ignore red flags that they otherwise wouldn’t.<\/p>\n
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